Just when you thought speed dating was the new awful trend along comes online dating! What happened to the days when you could meet people at a store, on the street, through work, or getting groceries? It’s virtually non existent. Thanks to the digital age, there is hardly human interaction besides hiding behind a computer to “meet” someone. So in an effort to not be totally isolated, I have tried online dating to put myself out there and be “social”.
I know that online dating has worked for many people, but for me it is so forced! Sitting through unbearable meals with embarrassing guys, having your date show up and he’s 100 pounds heavier than his picture, and listening to someone talk about themselves for 2 hours is painful. Dating wrong guy after wrong guy each week is like giving yourself a little bit of poison on a daily basis. Eventually you will build a tolerance and eventually I’ll meet the right guy. Or so people say! Many people I know, including one of my best friends, have met their partners on sites like Jdate, Match.com, and OkCupid (let’s be honest…you’re only using E-Harmony if you’re desperate) so it does work. I may be one to judge initially, but I’ll still always give things a try. So not only have I given online dating one chance, but over the past few years a bunch of chances (for extended periods of time). The only things you can pretty much rely on from these sites are:
1. Hot guys will be on there…but they most likely will not contact you. If you contact them they are unlikely to respond. (This is where the initial blow to your ego comes into play)
2. Good news! People will always view your profile and message you. Bad news: Most of them are the guys you don’t want to date (socially awkward, unattractive, and boring).
3. However, there are no worries about feeling unattractive because there’s always that sexual deviant out there who wants to bang you…and will let you know right off the bat. You might as well go on Meganslaw.com and find a sex offender. At least they’re registered.
So my experience hasn’t been all rainbows and sunshine and it hasn’t been insanely awful either. I seriously dated one person from a dating site years ago. He turned out to be a narcissistic disgusting excuse for a human being. I can say this because he told me he wished his ex girlfriend (from 10 years earlier) was dead so he didn’t have to think about her. This was right after he broke up with me and told me that breaking up with me wasn’t the worst part of his day. Finding out his ex had sex was. Some men are totally oblivious, insensitive, and just outright stupid! And recently I’ve been encountering a lot of them!
Unfortunately men and women are wired differently so we already have that against us. How are we supposed to meet decent people out there?! My answer is luck. It’s a numbers game and getting yourself out there in anyway you can increases your chances. As much as I am not thrilled about meeting people on websites, you never know who you are going to meet. Plus I have gotten a lot of great stories from my traumatic yet hysterical dates!
Stay tuned for some ridiculous dating disasters! Sneak preview: A black swedish sex addict, an off the boat Ukrainian…literally…I met him at Ellis Island, a guy with a wandering eye (where do you look?), a Facebook stalker, and more!
Let’s hear some of your frustrations and stories? I know I’m not the only one out there experiencing this!
Forever making lemons into Limoncello. Because after this crap who doesn’t need a drink!